By far our most popular episode so far has been the one called, “It’s Not About Communication!” But…what if it is? We talk about what happens when ideas–like noticing how people behave when they’re communicating well–harden into ideologies–like tech…
What happens when your partner wants way more sex than you do? Or way less? We talk about the death spiral that can happen in a relationship–but also about opportunities for grace, intimacy, and erotic connection, at any age.
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Everything you know about couples therapy is wrong! Well, maybe not everything. But we talk about what happens when your therapist puts their precious theories ahead of actual people, who somehow refuse to behave like the manual says. Join us as Bruce m…
Rules for communication! Everyone wants rules for communication! Of dozens of possibilities, here are five popular, common-sense rules–all of them ridiculous.
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We’re responding to a provocative question posed by a letter to Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus: If you watch porn, do you have to tell your partner about it? What are the pros and cons? Is porn okay at all, and if it is, how should a couple deal with it?
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We’re live! (Well, we taped before a live audience!) Check out our discussion of communication (it’s still not about communication!), sex, intimacy, and other topics, with provocative and personal questions from our audience. Thanks to Temple Sinai in S…
We talk about a lot of couples. But what about our own story? Thanks to a listener question, we tell all (well, we tell a lot!).
Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We’d love to hear from you!
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Did you know that sexual desire and sexual arousal aren’t the same–that you can be capable of arousal but have little desire, or have a lot of desire but experience little arousal? We have a lively, engaging interview with the Orthodox Sex Guru and Que…
What’s funny got to do with couples therapy? We talk to Izzy Gesell, a funny man who teaches us how to let ourselves be vulnerable enough to risk being foolish–and along the way, opens our hearts. We play an improv game to illustrate that takes a rathe…
If you had an affair, are you a total screw-up? Is there hope for healing? What if your partner cheated? Spoiler alert: Healing is possible–but it’s not easy. We talk about cheating, guilt, apologies, and the possibility that a couple can survive an aff…
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